The opposite of being a victim is not simply opting out of abuse; it is instead, to be abusive.
Given the choice between being the out-of-control victim, or the in-control abuser, some of these people grow up to prefer the role of the abuser.
She tried to break away from his hands, but he then tossed her to the floor and forced her to sex.
Lauren played with her old toys, when a man wrapped in a white sheet entered the room and started approaching her.
Becoming aware of the forms that abuse can take helps you to be better prepared to recognize such behavior as abusive.