An example: When inviting people to a wedding, "a T-type may take that spreadsheet approach and be sort of be detached and think about the fact that we can only invite X number of people.
[Meanwhile,] the F-type is thinking, 'Well gosh, if I invite this person, then the other person might wonder why they weren't included.' They're just more focused on what is the impact of this decision on other people?
In our arguments, he'd seem cold and indifferent to me; I'd seem unnecessarily emotional to him.
I focused on conflict points, which letters can reveal.
What you should be focusing on is how do I get to understand who that other person actually is, and how they naturally prefer to approach their lives." The real advantage of knowing someone's type starts on that first date "when oftentimes you are coming to them in a way that you feel that they need you to be or want you to be, versus who you really are." The four letters become a shortcut to see through the mask not only you wear but they also do, too.