When a married man courts a woman, he takes a huge risk—a risk that reveals he wants her very much.
His time with her, whether texting, secret coffee dates, or time spent in her bed, reveals a commitment much deeper than the single men she has been with. They didn’t have to engage in clandestine plans and think of elaborate excuses.
If women like Susan are very fortunate they'll learn more about the behavioral statistics of men who cheat before they decide to deepen their emotional risk.1.
The vast majority of men report that their reason for cheating was primarily sex.2.
And most single men confess they are initially very careful not to appear too interested, lest they find themselves headed for a commitment they're not ready for.