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Abandonment experiences and boundary violations are in no way indictments of a child's innate goodness and value.
Instead, they reveal the flawed thinking, false beliefs, and impaired behaviors of those who hurt them.
Emotional abandonment occurs when parents do not provide the emotional conditions and the emotional environment necessary for healthy development.
I like to define emotional abandonment as "occurring when a child has to hide a part of who he or she is in order to be accepted, or to not be rejected."Having to hide a part of yourself means: Many times abandonment issues are fused with distorted, confused, or undefined boundaries such as: When parents do not view children as separate beings with distinct boundaries When parents expect children to be extensions of themselves When parents are not willing to take responsibility for their feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, but expect children to take responsibility for them When parents' self-esteem is derived through their child's behavior When children are treated as peers with no parent/child distinction Abandonment plus distorted boundaries, at a time when children are developing their sense of worth, is the foundation for the belief in their own inadequacy and the central cause of their shame.
Do not expect for others (abusers) to change, in order for you to grant yourself this long needed peace of mind. it should’ve been the other way around yet they gloated in my desperation ... bc I was sick with cancer and how dare I put them out ...