We don’t need to dwell on them or give them more importance than they deserve (tending to your wounds can become a full-time job — and another seductive way to avoid action!), but we do need to acknowledge them in order to move forward.
That’s what this article is about: How to restore your confidence when it takes a hit — in an authentic, meaningful, and lasting way. (Here’s a working copy of that paper.) As we teach here at AOC, the body follows the mind, and the mind follows the body.
As with most cliches, “Fake it till you make it” has an inkling of truth to it. In that view, confidence isn’t something we have, it’s something we do.
In an old piece, he writes openly about working amidst his despair over a particularly heavy book project: My solution? And that’s what restoring confidence looks like in action.
True confidence isn’t about suppressing pain or pretending that failure doesn’t hurt.
If this resonates with you, here are some things you can do (that helped me):1. It does you no good to act like something you're not.