Which is why I suspect that part of the problem you’re having here is that you have a hole marked “Girlfriend” that you’re trying to fill and are less concerned about who fills it. …but all of them have rejected me with words along the lines of “it was lovely to meet you but I’m not sure I felt enough of a connection for a second date”. All of this despite evidence that they were interested in me, flowing conversation punctuated by laughter and even occasional arm touches etc. OK someone call Sir Mix-A-Lott because I hear a big “But” coming… If by “being ignored by women”, you mean that women aren’t approaching you for dates, then we’ve found your first problem.
When you want to have a second date with literally woman you’ve been on a date with, I’m left thinking that you’ve set the bar for a second date so low that you could trip over it. What you’re describing as “being ignored” is “women going about their daily lives”, which, remarkably, doesn’t revolve around you or your boner.
People all over the autism spectrum have relationships which run the gamut, from friends-with-benefits arrangements to long and happy marriages.
One: the guy freaks out and reacts angrily or violently – it’s a trap, she’s a sex-worker looking for a client, whatever. – On the rare occasions that I do get a date, and I feel I make a good impression, I’m rejected after the first hurdle. – For me, It is not reasonable expect chemistry after speaking to a stranger for 2 hours, and 3 or 4 dates are required to see if there is any compatibility. Remember what I said about your having a Somebody, Anybody, Everybody problem? If you have chemistry with vibe, which is going to be a turn-off to just about every woman you meet.
Two: he vastly overestimates her interest; she says “Hey, my name is…” and he hears “TAKE ME IN A MANLY FASHION IN THE BATHROOM, YOU STALLION YOU”. Respecting somebody’s boundaries or actively getting consent isn’t “repressing” anything. – One or two matches – if that – from every 100 right swipes on Tinder Welcome to Tinder, dude. Fine tune your Tinder profile, get better photos and recognize that you’re going to be shotgunning swipes because you’ve got next to no information aside from a photo to go on. – Developing a nice exchange of messages but never hearing from her again when you suggest going for a drink; This just means that someone wasn’t interested in meeting you for a drink. Women, on average, don’t like feeling like they’re interchangeable, and a guy who’s giving them the feeling that he just wants if it hadn’t been on a dating site.
So scrub up and snap on the gloves; it’s time to get all up in them guts.
Doctor Nerd Love, I need your advice to get me out of a very negative mindset.
My one girlfriend when I was 16 is now happily married.